As it's Day of Silence time again, I was wondering what everyone's perspectives on it are. Since the fact that I'm A is something I can't bring up at home, I feel like it applies to me (not a wanky comment! Just mentioning fact.) and so my bi best friend and I are participating in each other's honor.
How does everyone feel about it as it relates to asexuality?
I was reading the advice column that is published in our paper, and I was a little surprised (and very happy!) with the advice given.
The letter was from a 60-year-old woman whose "gentleman friend" shows less affection than she wishes he would. The columnist casually suggested that he might be asexual. No long explaination, no big to do. Just "This gentlemen may be...asexual..."
I really liked that- not treating it as freakish or really different. Just a fact- the guy might be A. I really like it when people do that!
I haven't been on this community in ages, but when I found this article on Wikipedia, I couldn't stay away. It's about a guy named Edward Gorey, who wrote macabre childrens books. (Reminds me of Struwwelpeter) Anyway, I was skimming the biographical section and found this.
"Gorey never married, professed to have little interest in romance, and never discussed any specific romantic relationships in interviews. In the book The Strange Case of Edward Gorey, published after Gorey's death, his friend Alexander Theroux reported that when Gorey was pressed on the matter of his sexual orientation, he said that even he was not sure whether he was gay or straight. When asked what his sexual preferences were in an interview, he said: "I'm neither one thing nor the other particularly. I am fortunate in that I am apparently reasonably undersexed or something... I've never said that I was gay and I've never said that I wasn't... What I'm trying to say is that I am a person before I am anything else..." It is possible that Gorey was asexual. Theroux paints a portrait of a man who lived a fairly solitary existence by choice, friendly, generous, and apparently comfortable with strangers, but strongly preferring to be alone most of the time."
He sounds pretty darn asexual to me. This was fun to find...