Mmkay, so for my big final paper in my gender and film class, I did a full-blown asexual reading of The Wizard of Oz. It's written somewhat in response to an article by Alexander Doty, which was a surprisingly convincing homosexual reading that had Dorothy as a lesbian, torn between femme Glinda and butch Wicked Witch of the West. Kept thinking when I read it, though, that it'd make even more sense if Dorothy was just asexual. It's unfortunate that Doty's article isn't available on the internet (you have to get one of his books to read it), but I think you'll still get the picture.
As it's Day of Silence time again, I was wondering what everyone's perspectives on it are. Since the fact that I'm A is something I can't bring up at home, I feel like it applies to me (not a wanky comment! Just mentioning fact.) and so my bi best friend and I are participating in each other's honor. How does everyone feel about it as it relates to asexuality?
Since I realized that I'm not really into any type of romantic/sexual intimacy, I also gradually started feeling liberated from the all-encompassing yet often covert social pressure to look/behave in a way that, fitting your gender stereotype, helps you attract a mate.
The thing is, once you realize the underlying, original purpose of gender conventions, things like having long hair, painted toenails, or wearing heels start looking rather silly. I look at my old lipsticks and think to myself "Now WHY on earth would I want to put that on my face? It's gooey, it doesn't taste well, it smears off easily, sometimes halfway across your whole face as well, you have to remember not to touch or bite your lips when you're wearing it, you have to re-apply it every hour or so anyway... And all this just to advertize that I'm a young, healthy, and fertile female? Surely there's a better use for all this time and effort?"
My giving up on such things was not only triggered by their triviality, but also to avoid the wrong signals they might send to other people. I'm not trying with all my might to look like a girl, because the fact that I happen to be a girl is completely irrelevant to me in my life. I'm not looking for a guy, so I don't have to emphasize my girly qualities to attract one. I'm just me. I don't wear high heels, they're uncomfortable and very bad for your feet. I don't wear make-up, it's uncomfortable and expensive. But I do wear perfume, because its fragrance makes me feel like summer.
Of course, one could always argue that one's wearing those sky-high heels purely in the name of abstract elegance, but I'd still question the origins of such perception of elegance...
What's your opinion on this? Does asexuality makes you less prone to over-stating your gender through the usual means employed in our society, like fashion? What about behavior? Do you feel less pressure to "act like a girl" or "act like a man"?
In lieu of sex, what is your most intimate act? I realize that even for sexual people sex is not always the highest form of physical intimacy, but I would assume that for asexuals it's probably something else, right?
(This is something I've been thinking about for a while.)
Once upon a time, Jane Austen wrote novels that were part satire, part romance, and 100% asexual in content. These were the penny novels, so to speak, of the time (from what I hear; correct me if I'm wrong, people).
When reading these novels, do you think people were more focused on the emotional, courtly love style of romance that these novels portrayed, or were they mentally translating it into sex? What I mean, I suppose, is: Do you think people in earlier centuries were less sexual or just more repressed (or, as a third option, more polite about it)?
When I read, say, Pride and Prejudice, what strikes me most is the social humor.
(This can be broader than Jane Austen, obviously; she's just what I thought of.)
(Inform me if this is an inappropriate topic. I'm not certain what is acceptable here and what's not.)